tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9216889310228763830.post7389609994598377364..comments2011-06-13T12:17:29.000-06:00Comments on What a Tasty Baby!: Random RoundupKatehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04720591294855837722noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9216889310228763830.post-87124215775012930312008-01-23T13:55:00.000-07:002008-01-23T13:55:00.000-07:00Hi there,First comment posted here. Let me say tha...Hi there,<BR/><BR/>First comment posted here. Let me say that I was very glad to find Fat Acceptance blogs - I was thinking of starting my own site called stopfathate.com, not too long ago (I started a new job, got my first house, and haven't had a moment of extra time). <BR/><BR/>It was, in fact, the NY Times article that brought me here initially. So---you have generated positive interest via the article, congrats! :)<BR/><BR/>In response to your post, I believe I would have handled it similarly to how I responded to my doctor when he asked, "Are you happy with your current weight?" <BR/><BR/>"Very," I replied. "I feel great, I get exercise, I have a balanced diet."<BR/><BR/>To which he nodded and smiled, and said that was <I>good</I>, there needed to be more people like me that were happy and healthy where they were. I know, he has to be the first general-practice doctor that received my comment with anything more than indignant, condescending spluttering. <BR/><BR/>Perhaps the interaction with the salelady would have transpired thusly: <BR/><BR/>ME: "Nothing fits --- I lost weight after I moved down here, and I'm really uncomfortable in my old bras."<BR/><BR/>SALESLADY: "Wow, that's great! You look wonderful, and I bet you'll stick with it. It will be so great to see you in here again, and I'll be measuring you for an even smaller size." <BR/><BR/>ME: "Nah, I don't think so. I've always pretty much looked like this, it's just the move. Besides, I don't want to be smaller. I just want to have a bra that fits---don't we all?" <BR/><BR/>SALESLADY (who would think my comment was self-deprecating rather than explanatory): "Oh no, don't say that! I'm sure if you just work hard you'll get to the weight you want."<BR/><BR/>ME: "That's okay. I like the way I look, and I don't think I need to be any smaller. So did you say you had that in black?" <BR/><BR/>...and so forth. Don't get angry with the presumptions --- they're made by a woman who has likely been brainwashed by the thinner-is-the-winner culture her whole life. She doesn't know what she's talking about; so just treat her like a child who doesn't know what she's talking about. Retain your dignity, and make your point firmly yet civilly. <BR/><BR/>Especially in light of MLK day this week, we have to treat even those that hate us with civility - something we're not always afforded - and class, while still firmly getting our point across. <BR/><BR/>Great post. :)Abigail Nusseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13961464186218427562noreply@blogger.com